When shocking and upsetting events happen in the world, we often learn about them through radio, TV, social media and conversations with family, friends and colleagues. Children are frequently exposed to this information too but don’t have the tools, experience or emotional capacity to process and cope with news in the same way. As a teacher or a parent, it can be difficult to know where to begin with supporting children at times like these.
This is our TPC guide to approaching difficult news topics in a way that makes children feel safe, secure and validated.
- Listen carefully and thoughtfully to what children are saying and ensure they feel heard without judgement
- Ask open, reflective questions and try to avoid sharing your own opinions
- Normalise what they are feeling and remind them that others may be feeling the same
- Reassure them that they are safe and that you are all in this together
- Don’t be afraid to answer their questions at an age-appropriate level or explain that you don’t know or have specific information yet if you are unsure
- Validate their feelings by acknowledging any fears and reassuring that it’s ok not to have all the answers or to feel uncertain or unsettled. There is no need to offer any solutions, just understanding what they’re feeling is more than enough
- Encourage calm activity and play like colouring, reading, art, music, mindful activity, outdoor time and walks. This calm YouTube video is one of our favourites and is great for playing at home or in classrooms
- Try to minimise access to different news sources as this can perpetuate any stress that children might be feeling
- Stay as calm as you are able. Children often pick up on the anxiety of the adults around them and it is important to take care of your own wellbeing
- Open the floor for conversation with a circle time or similar. This will act as a safe space where feelings can be expressed and understood – a chance to come together as a community to pause and share
- Keep their rhythm and routine with outdoor break and playtimes but do offer the chance to stay inside for any children that may need or prefer it
- Write or draw out their feelings. Offer the children an opportunity to reflect and get their thoughts down on paper with no pressure to share
- Take your time and be aware that some conversations will need days, week or months to surface. Keep checking back in with the children if it feels right
- Consider any children who may be directly impacted by the situation or have past trauma
Turbulent events in the news can be upsetting, confusing and frightening for children but the time, care and support of the adults around them can provide all the reassurance, safety and stability they need. You being there, by their side, is more important than perfect words.